My desire for my role in the household falls somewhere between the Victorian Mistress of the House, and the concept of the Stepford Wife.
I love the concept of command that the Victorian women had over their household, but also hold close the position of the woman as very much subordinate to her husband, doing all in her power to please him and sate his desires.
My ideal would thus be expressed as a medium between somber organization and happy-go-lucky air-head! (Could I have picked two more contrasting descriptions?).